It’s important to identify the parts of your mind that are acting as your protectors, trying to make sure you don’t get hurt and that you fit in with the world around you. The more connected you are with Self, the less your managers need to protect you from hurt, fear and shame.
Do you ever do something that you know isn’t right, just to get attention? I did it a lot as a kid, and I catch myself doing it even now as a grown man. When you learn something as a child, it stays with you forever, engrained in your subconscious. It takes real effort to … [Read more…]
Internal Family Systems has changed my life. Becoming self aware and realizing how my past influences every part of my life and why I think and act the way I do has enabled me to stop and assess various situations and acknowledge things like biased attitudes. And once you are aware of your biases, like … [Read more…]
I was told that I was a “bad kid” a lot. But what does that even mean? For kids and adults alike, we create new definitions for words based on our experiences with those words. I talk about it more in depth in my book, but when I acted out as a child and was … [Read more…]