In the same way that you would want to defend or protect someone you love who was in danger of being hurt, our Managers are the parts of us that protect us from feeling shame, hurt, and fear. Some managers try to control our immediate environment to make it look like everything is going alright and that we are totally fine, so that our friends, family and society don’t suspect that life isn’t all perfect. The more we connect with our true Self, the less our Managers have to work to protect us from these perceived threats.