Did you know there’s a leaning tower in the UK? Caerphilly Castle in Wales is a fascinating destination. Built well over 700 years ago, it’s the second largest castle in Britain, and as you can see in this picture, one of the towers has a significant lean to it. While it makes for a fun … [Read more…]
It is my belief that your gut feelings guide you from a place deep in your Self, which is your connection to the universe. Very often, they are the most reliable voice speaking to you, with only your best interests in mind.
In the same way that you would want to defend or protect someone you love who was in danger of being hurt, our Managers are the parts of us that protect us from feeling shame, hurt, and fear. Some managers try to control our immediate environment to make it look like everything is going alright … [Read more…]
True happiness comes from loving yourself and living in the moment. When you love yourself, it makes it so much easier to love other people also. And by living in the present and not dwelling in the past, you are able to fully experience the happiness of each moment without being distracted by past situations.
All of us have situations that cause us to react negatively – they trigger an emotion in us and we often can’t quite put our fingers on why. In becoming Self Aware, I worked through learning a number of my triggers and dug deep into discovering why they affect me the way they do. In … [Read more…]
The more you believe in your decisions, the less you need other people to believe in them. I believe that self-doubt is rooted into our subconscious when we are very young, and then perpetuated by other people questioning our choices for the rest of our lives. If you can firmly connect with your Self, you … [Read more…]
Becoming Self aware is a process that must happen from the inside out. We need to stop and look inside to identify the parts of ourselves that are preventing us from living aware of Self. Those parts that are keeping us from living in Self are also the ones preventing us from living our greatest … [Read more…]
It’s important to identify the parts of your mind that are acting as your protectors, trying to make sure you don’t get hurt and that you fit in with the world around you. The more connected you are with Self, the less your managers need to protect you from hurt, fear and shame.
Do you ever do something that you know isn’t right, just to get attention? I did it a lot as a kid, and I catch myself doing it even now as a grown man. When you learn something as a child, it stays with you forever, engrained in your subconscious. It takes real effort to … [Read more…]
Internal Family Systems has changed my life. Becoming self aware and realizing how my past influences every part of my life and why I think and act the way I do has enabled me to stop and assess various situations and acknowledge things like biased attitudes. And once you are aware of your biases, like … [Read more…]