Internal Family Systems has changed my life. Becoming self aware and realizing how my past influences every part of my life and why I think and act the way I do has enabled me to stop and assess various situations and acknowledge things like biased attitudes. And once you are aware of your biases, like … [Read more…]
#ThrowbackThursday to when my oldest daughter was just a little girl. It feels like only yesterday, and yet also like a lifetime ago. She has grown into an exceptional woman, but I can’t help but wonder how I would have parented differently if I had learned about being Self Aware back then…
#ThrowbackThursday to my short-lived “biker” days- in fact, for a while, I sold bikes! Trail bikes like these ones gave me a way to spend time with my brother. My whole life I have been determined not to let the fact that I have two prosthetic legs slow me down. As a child, I was … [Read more…]
We spend a lot of time thinking about and working on our relationships with other people. But in reality, you will never have truly healthy relationships with other people until you stop and focus on your relationships with yourself.
Our Internal Family System (IFS) is made up of different types of Parts. First, we have vulnerable Parts that carry our beliefs and feelings from past experiences, beginning at birth all the way to the present. In IFS, these Parts are known as Exiles. For our purposes, we will refer to them as our vulnerable … [Read more…]
Why don’t I know what I want to do with my life? Why can’t I figure out what I want to take in school? Why can’t I commit to a job or a career path? Why is it difficult for me to commit to life decisions? Why am I not brave enough to do what … [Read more…]
How is it possible that three completely different species, stereotypically known to dislike each other, can get along? In the video below, Gregory Pike explains that it’s not too good to be true. Aside from being a delightfully uplifting story, this video holds special meaning for me. I believe that the same principles can apply … [Read more…]
Here’s another example of the amazing things we can do if we can get our Parts to step back. Like the Baseball video that we posted recently, the golfer in this video had to constantly adjust his technique (mentally and physically) to achieve the outcomes that he desired. I believe the difference in being good … [Read more…]
We say we are sorry for so many things every day and most, if not all, of these come from PARTS of us. Along with the part that is saying sorry, there are other parts that are saying BUT. What parts are trying to do is shift part of the blame for the situation or … [Read more…]
Internal Family Systems (IFS), the basis of Be Self Aware, is a rapidly growing method of understanding why we act and react to the world around us. Be Self Aware was designed to be an easy-to-understand guide to beginning to overcome negative feelings, make sense of self-harming thoughts and actions, and realize your true self. … [Read more…]